Saturday, May 22, 2010

What should I say?

I spoke with a very compassionate woman today. She looked up at me with tears in her eyes upon hearing about Peyton and my infertility and asked... "What can I say? What would help?"

I struggled to answer her.

"Nothing," was the only response that felt true. "There is nothing that anyone can say."

15 comments:

  1. I have had people ask me the same question. They told me that they didnt know what to say to me. My response was that they said it perfectly just them saying im sorry but i dont know what to say helped me more then if they were to try and tell me something that they think would comfort me like i know how you feel when they dont or dont worry you can always have more. What do i say somehow seems enough.

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  2. It was nice of her to ask and know that there are no words. I'm glad that you got to talk to someone who was compassionate.

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  3. I am here if you need me but I hope you can take a hug from me. ((HUGS))) That is way too sad.

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  4. What an insightful woman to ask instead of fumbling around with the wrong words. But you are so right...there are no words. None of them ease the pain or make you feel better or take it away. I am sorry for your loss is about is good as it gets. I am praying for you is pretty good too! And it just so happens that both are true from me!

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  5. It was a sweet thing to try to offer some sort of comfort, but you're right, there is nothing that anyone can say to take away your pain.

    ((hugs))

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  6. I think "I'm sorry" is enough, anything more often lands up sounding empty and hurting more!

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  7. No one can take away the pain, nor can they say anything that will take away the pain. But....knowing that they want to hold your hand while you are in pain...helps. Knowing that they really do care....helps. Knowing that they remember your loss....helps.

    Sending you much love and a gazillion hugs...
    <3 Peyton <3

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  8. I wish more people would ask that question, instead of just saying 'stupid' things

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  9. I think the fact that she asked was the best thing she could say or do.

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  10. so very true... my mom and i were saying the same today.

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  11. Thank goodness she understood that there just is nothing...but at least asking shows she desperately wishes there was.
    Many, many hugs!!!

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  12. There really aren't any words that will make it better but I am grateful when people acknowledge my loss by saying "I'm sorry"

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  13. it would be nice if there was something someone could do. i think that in society people are at loss of words they dont know what to say.
    some conversations are just hard.

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  14. Such a painful truth. There are no magic words and no magic remedies. *hug*

    love and prayers
    elena

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