tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post9163991192453314173..comments2023-12-28T05:37:28.168-05:00Comments on Once A Mother...: Keeping Things In PerspectiveOnce A Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15974149780531831971noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-3856575372844113832011-03-03T17:39:23.857-05:002011-03-03T17:39:23.857-05:00Hi! My name is Atzimba, you don't know me in p...Hi! My name is Atzimba, you don't know me in person but I got to your blog clicking and clicking through other blogs I had been reading trying to find strength through a miscarriage.<br /><br />First, congratulations on your twins! What a blessing. You are a hero to your children and many others. My hat goes off to you and your husband for your endurance and example.<br />I feel I need to comment and share my two cents here. I hope you don't mind. I would feel bad not saying anything. So please take this as a friend who cares. I pray you still get to have the birth of your dreams. My sister just had a VBAC and I believe, it became possible because of the care of her well trained and very professional midwife. She had an OB as an alternative, but worked with a midwife to help with the VBAC. Her baby was breeched and the midwives she worked with gave her exercises and things to work on to turn baby. Midwives know how to do these things and most times OB's don't, with all due respect to OB's. They don't want to risk themselves so we moms end up being the ones who risk everything. They (OBs) don't get training in VBAC's. If they did, more of those would happen.<br />VBACs are so possible and ARE NOT extremely dangerous, not even with twins.<br />I know the 'bradley method' and a competent midwife could assist wonderfully in attempting a VBAC for you.<br />I hope my comment does not come out wrong. Your thoughts on perspective are very precise and healing when it comes to all this. I just wanted to share what I have witnessed and know for a fact, works.<br />Of course I am not suggesting taking an unecessary risk. But I believe we as birthing moms have the right to choose for ourselves and the privilege to stand up for what we feel is better for us and our kids.<br />I feel so grateful for modern doctors and medicine and it's place in helping people, yet doctors are not all powerful, nor do they always do what's best for us. It's only us who can more rightly decide what's best and have them provide their services to us as we ask for them. So even at the hospital you can have the birth of your dreams, it's all in us to achieve that. Doctors are wonderful people, yet they can/t tell what you really want, only you can stand for what you WANT. Go for it girl! You can do it!<br />Follow your heart. My best to you! Prayers, lots of prayers your way!<br /><br />A link to the book that changed my birthing world: <br />No matter where a woman gives birth, this book explains for once! how and all the details to really own the birth of your child, no matter where we are. <br />http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d.html/ref=redir_mdp_mobile/189-8419039-0788553?a=0452276594Atzimbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12196414985979759688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-26217165747977412772011-02-27T16:52:49.790-05:002011-02-27T16:52:49.790-05:00You're right, taking control of your own persp...You're right, taking control of your own perspective is all you can do.It'll be hard to go through the c-section, but Everything is gonna be alright once you can hold those little ones in your arms. I as well am hoping that the better outcome this time may give you a chance to turn it into a healing experience. Sending lots of positive thoughts and energy to you and the snowflakes.Helenehttp://thoughts-from-a-restless-mind.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-86373149022291040762011-02-24T11:11:47.061-05:002011-02-24T11:11:47.061-05:00Aww, spinning babies...I tried it...I don't kn...Aww, spinning babies...I tried it...I don't know. You're in a good place Kristen, all the Dr's are prepared for you and the babies. They tried everything for us to get the baby turned, it was not pleasant. AND you have 2, I cannot imagine. <br />Hang in there.*https://www.blogger.com/profile/10569248404287306578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-84963767505648620782011-02-23T23:45:27.404-05:002011-02-23T23:45:27.404-05:00Stinkers these little ones you have in there! I&#...Stinkers these little ones you have in there! I'm sorry they aren't turned and I'm sorry you're disappointed, my friend who had twins in November felt the same way, and then she said it really didn't matter because they were here and healthy and I know that will be the same way for you. I've found that sometimes, going through something the same way again can be even more healing b/c you get the better outcome! I know it will make you miss Peyton, but everyday you miss her adorable face, and all I can think is these little ones have seen her recently and are closely connected to her and you're going to have stories to share about the three of them. Not the same as the ones you wanted, but miraculous ones nonetheless! I can't wait to see their little faces and rejoice with you and hear their names and all of the good things!!!<br /><br />I'm so very sorry to hear about your almost wreck and about the horrible one you witnessed. Amazing the things that give us perspective.<br /><br />Praying hard for all 5 of you as this day approaches, as I know your angel is watching down and loving all 4 of you here! Lots of love!!Denihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16241957159520703116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-217852831300505552011-02-23T18:24:47.639-05:002011-02-23T18:24:47.639-05:00I'm happy to hear that you are all okay. I wai...I'm happy to hear that you are all okay. I waited until the last minute...wished for a vbac but in the end baby boy won out (another emerg c_. I hope that everything will be alright. After all it's the little ones that we want to meet, so I will cross my fingers that all goes smoothly.The Sole Sisters Collectivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07246151584628381510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-7625388562988633562011-02-23T16:36:51.370-05:002011-02-23T16:36:51.370-05:00Your twins are a blessing and so is the good healt...Your twins are a blessing and so is the good health of the three of you. Am I wrong to hold out hope that the breech baby will turn around before birth? If that is not a possibility, I pray that whatever birthing experience is necessary, that it is administered in the healthiest manner possible and that the whole experience is gentle on you and your husband. You're still in my prayers and thoughts.mysharona76https://www.blogger.com/profile/17911641257808513096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-4620468327169454862011-02-23T11:50:05.856-05:002011-02-23T11:50:05.856-05:00I'm sorry about the birthing experience. Howe...I'm sorry about the birthing experience. However, honestly I'm just so excited that those little babies will be here very soon that I can hardly wait!!!<br /><br />I am so excited for you and your family. You have already proven to be a wonderful Mommy to Peyton, and I feel certain you will be just as wonderful to these little guys.<br /><br />I'm sure that the bedrest has been a complete horror, but you are so close to payday. I can't wait to see pictures of the two of them in your arms.<br /><br />Prayers for a safe delivery. I know Peyton will be there cheering those babies along. I hope that you feel her love wrap around you during the delivery and in the days to come to offer strength and reassurance. Hugs!Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18132650070996872540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-26686190356038994892011-02-23T11:12:56.053-05:002011-02-23T11:12:56.053-05:00I always wanted a vaginal birth but never got to e...I always wanted a vaginal birth but never got to experience it. I also haven't experience what you have when you lost your precious Peyton. I am sitting her thanking God that your two precious babies are safe within you. Thanking God that you were not hurt today in your almost car accident. I also believe that those are two important signs from God that you received by seeing the other accident too. You are about to have two beautiful babies placed in your arms and that is a dream that many never get to have.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-65300616921809499732011-02-23T03:59:01.271-05:002011-02-23T03:59:01.271-05:00I too "get" the conflicting emotion betw...I too "get" the conflicting emotion between being glad to be alived and glad that your two babies are growing closer to their birth day, but sad you probably won't get to experience the most "motherly" experience.<br /><br />Does it help to say that your disappointment is at its maximum at the moment but (we hope and pray) your joy will grow so much more in the weeks, months, years, decades to come. In time this disappointment will be overshadowed by a lifetime (2 lifetimes) of joy.<br /><br />Stay well, rest well, the prize is in site. And every joy and blessing to you, your husband and your two snowflakes. Soon you will really get to see their uniqueness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-76564155296773448972011-02-23T02:10:14.316-05:002011-02-23T02:10:14.316-05:00Set an intention to have a peaceful birth, and the...Set an intention to have a peaceful birth, and then hand it over to the universe to have it delivered to you in whatever shape or form it may come ;-)<br /><br />I have a strong feeling that the next time we hear from you, there'll be two little snowflakes out in the world.<br /><br />Sorry about the accident, that is horrendous to see and experience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-51607354441380157032011-02-23T00:21:27.014-05:002011-02-23T00:21:27.014-05:00I'm sorry that things aren't going the way...I'm sorry that things aren't going the way that you hoped, but I'm so happy for your that the babies are healthy. Your an amazing mother.Aurora Floreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05960951336092543742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-25888831920415165002011-02-22T23:32:42.635-05:002011-02-22T23:32:42.635-05:00What an amazing story... you're so right - kee...What an amazing story... you're so right - keeping things in perspective is the only thing we can control on this crazy journey and to see such an horrific accident certainly can put things in perspective. I was devastated when I first found out that I would probably need a c-section when my first was breech and am gradually letting go of my dream of ever having a live NVD - but to know that they are both progressing so well otherwise must be an amazing feeling. You're doing a fantastic job and looking forward to hearing all about them when they arrive soon :)) xoxoDandelionBreezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988561541523178095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-29713369611446414622011-02-22T21:35:02.967-05:002011-02-22T21:35:02.967-05:00I have been reading for a while and i know i do no...I have been reading for a while and i know i do not comment often, but i have been praying extrememly hard for the twins and you since day one. I do want to let you know that maybe the babies being breech is a blessing. You see, I have been talking to some of the nurses I work with to see if their experience has been the same as mine....VBACS are EXTREMELY dangerous. Some docs try to do them, and I have been in ORs holding in a woman's uterus because she abrupted during delivery. I have never once been worried about the babies since you have been talking about a VBAC, but more for you. I would say 90% of the ones I have seen attempted have ended in the OR emergency c-section with the mother losing absorbent amounts of blood.....this was scaring me because you have twins.... that increases your risk. I know you REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted this, but i am hoping this happened for a reason...and all three of you come out of this happy and healthy. Maybe ask the OR staff if you can bring in some nice music to play in the room, and your hubby will get to be there this time (since it is planned), and maybe bring a fun little surgical cap with a pattern or someting for you and the hubby....things to make it special, and more comfortable. You are still in my prayers! and just remember, life throws us things, but one thing I have noticed is you are one strong cookie, and you will probably forget about the birth process once those babes are in your arm:-)Radiant Readheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11467915589102902588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-50238092306967009162011-02-22T21:30:55.047-05:002011-02-22T21:30:55.047-05:00have you checked out the website spinning babies??...have you checked out the website spinning babies???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-81938739744577226472011-02-22T21:20:31.377-05:002011-02-22T21:20:31.377-05:00I look back and it does sadden me that I had a c/s...I look back and it does sadden me that I had a c/s with Bobby and Maya. But I look into their eyes and know that I would do it again if it meant being able to look in their eyes every single day... or even just that one day.<br /><br />Perspective... You are so right.<br /><br />I am so glad you- and those sweet babies- are okay, and I will say a prayer for those drivers...Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-72396855004357622922011-02-22T20:56:30.453-05:002011-02-22T20:56:30.453-05:00Oh, so true my dear. After all the loss we've ...Oh, so true my dear. After all the loss we've been through, and with our big Level II ultrasound looming tomorrow morning, I know that statement is SO true. Whatever will be will be. Thanks for reminding me to keep it all in perspective.<br /><br />Can't wait to see those beauties!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14686966887504657288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-44077224794305480262011-02-22T19:15:33.171-05:002011-02-22T19:15:33.171-05:00You're a beautiful and wise woman.
xoYou're a beautiful and wise woman.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-65076213920177743732011-02-22T19:14:11.388-05:002011-02-22T19:14:11.388-05:00I'm sorry to hear you won't be able to VBA...I'm sorry to hear you won't be able to VBAC the twins, but am glad that they along with you are all safe and sound. That is awful about the accident, and it really does make you stop and put things into perspective. I wish you all the best as you get closer to the delivery day.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08304015627070680659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-54250070017661662662011-02-22T17:50:16.482-05:002011-02-22T17:50:16.482-05:00I know you know how lucky you are to get to full t...I know you know how lucky you are to get to full term with twins...It's amazing! I am sorry it won't be the birth you were hoping for but I"m guessing that when you see those babies you won't care anymore. I had a c-section with my youngest (the same way her big brothers were born) and yes, it was odd to be in that room but it didn't have any triggers for me. The triggers came later....as my little girl got bigger and bigger and I saw what i was missing with her brothers. I hope your delivery day is a good one too....Thinking of you!Devonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08741058376833464074noreply@blogger.com