tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post3690097419827355436..comments2023-12-28T05:37:28.168-05:00Comments on Once A Mother...: Help. Love. Writing. - The Secret Garden Meeting Sept.Once A Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15974149780531831971noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-58643420428786923062009-10-09T22:51:42.313-04:002009-10-09T22:51:42.313-04:00Yes, everyone loves the limo. I've had a few ...Yes, everyone loves the limo. I've had a few friends get on the bus, but there are only 1 or 2 left who haven't gotten off at an earlier stop yet. What a perfect metaphor.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00998100621997712249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-58660094929548892852009-10-06T13:31:13.865-04:002009-10-06T13:31:13.865-04:00You have captured the things that helped you so we...You have captured the things that helped you so well. I am so glad you can say you have better friends. Those people are a true treasure and I think this loss breaks or makes a friendship. It is wonderful that there are people in your life that talk about Peyton and remember her. In my world, that is scarce. Not sure why, but it makes me happy to hear that there are people who will remember our angel babies with us, through conversation or pictures or anything. Love to the sky.<br />XXFranchescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08362049658761399255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-2953958199987717162009-10-06T12:26:23.726-04:002009-10-06T12:26:23.726-04:00I've never heard that Oprah quote before. How...I've never heard that Oprah quote before. How interesting.<br /><br />I have to say I am overwhelmed at how amazing your family and friends have been. Completely. Overwhelmed. You are very fortunate in that regard I think. My family, if anything, were the complete opposite.<br /><br />Everytime I see Peyton's picture I am stunned by such a sense of her personality. She is so beautiful and she looks as though she was quite a chirpy little character.<br /><br />xxSophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663682329663202706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-25130930060024031102009-10-06T12:18:35.332-04:002009-10-06T12:18:35.332-04:00I've been riding on the bus since I was 15. T...I've been riding on the bus since I was 15. That was the moment where the realization that all those who call themselves friends are not really in it for the long haul. I'd been so lucky to have found a small handful of people to share my ride with over the years...people that didn't turn away just because my life was more complicated...but now that Simon and Alexander are gone, I've found that bus swarming with the warmest of sisters--woman who hold your hand even when they are drowning right next to you. Woman who understand the feeling that goes with standing next to the answering machine--unable to pick up--who know you are there, and love you in spite of your inability to reach back. The most loyal, and sincere bunch of woman that I feel honored to hold close to my heart. You can run next to my fat ass anytime sweet mama. (HUG).Emerging Butterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03308150825693906532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-51138851317245326102009-10-06T08:08:47.682-04:002009-10-06T08:08:47.682-04:00Girl you hit the nail on the head with this blogpo...Girl you hit the nail on the head with this blogpost.<br /><br />Especially with the writing and your friends beside you and the Oprah comment...<br /><br />You totally captured my heart as a fellow woman with lost children and the trauma it brings. I've lost many family members and see a grief therapist myself. She is phenomenal. I had to switch because I had someone I liked but wasn't doing much for me... he told me the books to read but the "work" behind the books' philosophies.... that is the real work. The work on yourself and removing the hurt and pain, can't just be done by a book and being mindful.<br /><br />Hugs sweetie. I am on here every time you update now that I learned about you. Don't Stop Believin' (if you saw Oprah yesterday you know what I mean and coincidence, I wrote a blog post about that song a few days ago!) that the grief will subside, rise, subside like waves, even over time but you will be able to cope. <br /><br />And you will be a stronger woman... and able to move forward and onward.<br /><br />You will never forget, even after the next child comes. And by the way, you are not once a mother. You ARE a mother. You gave birth. You will always be a mother.<br /><br />Here is the deal. This woman I know who had twin teens, lost her teens and asked me if she could still call herself mother (they died in a car accident). I said, what? If you have life inside of you, whether it be 4 weeks and a m/c, or still birth, or losing a child post birth, you will always be a mother.<br /><br />You need to change your blog title! Always a Mother!<br /><br />hugs, THalf of a Duo, Raising a Duohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14967844567225960467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-12489599348371900702009-10-06T06:23:31.830-04:002009-10-06T06:23:31.830-04:00I've never been to a therapist before but I di...I've never been to a therapist before but I did receive counseling at one point in my life and I can't even begin to tell you how helpful that was to me. I'm glad you have people who aren't afraid to talk about Peyton. That's so wonderful.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-25920000828232691512009-10-06T05:39:59.620-04:002009-10-06T05:39:59.620-04:00Riding the bus with you and remembering your sweet...Riding the bus with you and remembering your sweet Peyton...Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-58029004977314785332009-10-06T03:15:21.593-04:002009-10-06T03:15:21.593-04:00You definitely have a gift for writing. Thank you ...You definitely have a gift for writing. Thank you so much for sharing your story of Peyton.<br /><br />((hugs and prayers))Veronica Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14411581380408080378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-89396498897694219462009-10-06T03:11:03.689-04:002009-10-06T03:11:03.689-04:00Yes to all of this. You have captured it perfectly...Yes to all of this. You have captured it perfectly.<br /><br />The one-year mark is so, so tough. I found the anniversary of Iris' death to be as awful as expected, but what caught be off-guard was just how the tough the weeks surrounding the 'big day' were. The anticipation of pain and then the flatness afterwards. I don't know what I thought was going to happen - that I'd feel better? That someone might turn up saying that it had all been a huge joke and HERE was my bonny 1-year-old?<br /><br />Love to you and thinking of your beautiful Peyton xoafter irishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13228758569220259464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-40841951835251822522009-10-06T02:49:04.776-04:002009-10-06T02:49:04.776-04:00Every word you have written is just perfect, thank...Every word you have written is just perfect, thank you.<br />Peyton certainly was a beautiful little girl.Jeanettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11423818333034603238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-26797830248876442652009-10-05T23:53:06.137-04:002009-10-05T23:53:06.137-04:00I love that Oprah quote - it is so interesting to ...I love that Oprah quote - it is so interesting to see who rides the bus with us. Thank you for sharing your story of Peyton and your heart. (((Hugs)))Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01771397595613026711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-12928980664638068212009-10-05T23:48:34.779-04:002009-10-05T23:48:34.779-04:00It sounds like you have a wonderful support system...It sounds like you have a wonderful support system to help you through this very difficult time. xxTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149337445828424583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8163203822642488592.post-52294412632584345102009-10-05T23:41:05.198-04:002009-10-05T23:41:05.198-04:00You nailed it. All of it. You are one of the few...You nailed it. All of it. You are one of the few who turn grief and tragedy into beauty time and time again on this blog and we are very lucky to have you in this world...Debhttp://www.deborahsteinberg.comnoreply@blogger.com